parents:
you're not failing. you're learning a language no one taught you.
transitioning from shame-, obligation-, and anxiety-driven parenting paradigms to authentic parenting.
a parent-centric space for transformation rooted in connection, development, nervous system science, emotional intelligence, and humanity. ✨🖤
"because behavior is communication
and parenting is an art, and I know you have SO much to offer your kids. we'll work on ensuring you feel regulated and confident enough to know and embody it."
- ashley
Maybe you're here because...
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Parenting is feeling heavy.
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You want to break cycles, but you keep finding yourself in the same patterns of response.
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You're feeling triggered by your child's behavior, but you know deep down your child isn't just "giving you a hard time."
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You want to parent with boundaries, but you know you and your child are craving better connection, too.
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You've consumed plenty of parenting advice, but getting from where you are to where you want to be in your parenting journey is still feeling sticky.
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You're craving support that feels human, raw, deep, and truly supportive (maybe like you haven't even had before?)
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You want a box full of tools that actually work for you and your child to help every (single) situation!
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You need guidance to employ and EMBODY what you've learned and what you know is right for you.
--you are not broken.
--your family is not doomed.
you're LEARNING.
so give yourself a break.
you've got this!
your family's future
is bright 🫶
what makes this space different
Parenting support that goes deeper than behavior charts.
We explore:
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Nervous system science (self- and co-regulation)
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Attachment and relational science (secure/insecure attachment patterns and importance of connection)
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Brain development and reasonable expectations
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Mindsight (the ability to perceive our own inner thoughts, feelings, memories, and those of others)
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Limiting, adoptive, maladaptive beliefs
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Emotional intelligence (embodying empathy for ourselves and others)
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Non-violent communication (an understanding that communication is an expression of our feelings and underlying unmet needs)
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Generational patterns and cycle breaking with gratitude
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Repair after rupture (there's always hope)
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YOU (the parent underneath the parenting)
work with me
Read Moreheal while parenting authentically | sliding scale & scholarships available
200 US dollars
frequently asked questions
1. What is parent coaching, exactly? Parent coaching is a brave space where vulnerability and compassion are prioritized. We look beneath behaviors and reactions of your child to figure out where they are coming from. We come to understand where your responses are coming from, and work to ensure they align with your values. Not only do we work to understand behaviors, responses and actions in this deep and transformative way, but we practice the tools to move through them, so you can embody and access change like never before. Here's the thing. I KNOW you have so much to offer your kids....My goal is just to help you embody it.
2. What philosophies and scientific principles guide your work? - Attachment science (our attachments to our caregivers, ourselves, our children). - Nervous system science (self- and co-regulation; understanding and navigating our physical body reactions--yes, you have control of this) - Non-violent communication (actually understanding what one another is feeling and needing) - Child development - Brain science and mindsight - Emotional intelligence and connection (humans are fundamentally wired to connect)
3. What is parent coaching NOT? Though I am a pediatrician, this space, and my parent coaching container is not medical advice, and does not establish a doctor-patient relationship. It is not therapy. Parent coaching is separate from medical care. I do not diagnose, prescribe, or provide medical treatment in this space. Coaching is educational, reflective, and support-focused. However, it IS deep, integrative work. If you feel like you might need it, please ensure you have mental health support before starting coaching, or at any time during the process where you feel like you need support. You are ultimately responsible for seeking the support you need and reaching out for crisis support if ever needed. If concerns arise, I may encourage you to connect with an appropriate healthcare professional. We are also not going to be "fixing" your child or developing behavior plans for your child. This work is parent-centric. That means, I lead you to illuminate your inner strength, allowing you to lead your child in the most authentic, empowered and grounded way.
4. Who is parent coaching for? Parent coaching is for anyone (parents, step-parents, grandparents, caregivers, foster parents) who wants to: - understand behavior more deeply. - parent differently than they were parented. - feel less overwhelmed, reactive, burnt out, disconnected, or stuck. - value connection, growth, emotional intelligence, and repair. - be supported without shame or judgment. You don't need to "have it together" (or pretend to), to be here!
5. What kinds of things can we work on? - emotional regulation + meltdowns - conflict and power struggles - attachment + connection - communication challenges - boundaries + limits - sibling dynamics - nervous system overwhelm - parenting after difficult childhood experiences - understanding developmental expectations - repairing after rupture - building a calmer, more connected home dynamic We will start with curiosity regarding the pain points you have in parenting. Sometimes we discover a "doorway" that is acually stress, burnout, grief, or survival patterns living quiety in the background. Because our experiences, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and ways of dealing with all of it, is connected.
6. What is "the doorway"? Our first session together, built to be a meaningful, low-pressure conversation where we explore what brings you here, what patterns feel hardest right now, what support you're looking for, and whether we feel like a good fit together. No performance, no expectations. Just a humble, welcoming, brave space to start exploring who you are and what you need in order to parent authentically!
7. Will this "fix" my child? Well, children are not problems to fix. The goal here is not control, perfection or obedience. Our goal here is simply humaning: developing a deeper understanding for a healthier connection, re-establishing or supporting emotional and relational safety in your home, along with a toolbox of effective ways to navigate ALL the moments.
8. What if I feel nervous or vulnerable? PERFECT! Honestly, this work is inherently vulnerable, and it works best that way, because we're often touching on patterns that like to run unquestioned behind the scenes. It can be hard to look in the mirror and be curious about where patterns come from and why they show up in our parenting, but that is how we break generational cycles. Also, I hope you can trust me when I say...SO many parents arrive here carrying burdens that aren't theirs (shame, doubt, exhaustion, fear, etc), for which I've designed my work to move away from judgment and toward curiosity and a felt sense of understanding, so we can move towards true repair, healing, and growth. ...and even with that said, it can STILL be really hard to show up. But I promise it's worth it.
9. What is "attachment"? According to Mona Delahooke, PhD in her book, "Beyond Behaviors," Attachment is the quality of psychological and emotional connection shared between a caregiver and child (that transcends all space and time). It's our lifeblood. Our survival system. Part of our work will be to reflect and appreciate your own history of attachment, to then weave a narrative of why you show up the way you do. Only then will we be able to shine a light on the quality of attachments we are nurturing in our homes, and do the work to ensure they are aligned with your goals.